Poet and novelist Gioconda Belli on the rebellion of men against the feminine

Nicaraguan poet and novelist, Gioconda Belli. Madrid, Spain, June 1, 2009. Licensed under CC BY-SA 4.0.

“Aunt InĂ©s used to say that men were fickle and unfathomable. Nights walled off by stars. The stars were the cracks through which the woman peeked out. The men were the cave, the fire in the middle of the mastodons, the safety of broad chests, the large hands holding the woman in the act of love; beings who enjoyed the advantage of having no fixed horizons or the boundaries of confined spaces. The eternally privileged. Even though they all came out of the womb of a woman and depended on her to grow and breathe, to be fed, to have their first contact with the world, to learn words to speak; later they seemed to rebel with unusual brutality against this dependence, subduing the feminine sign, dominating it, denying the power of those who through the pain of open legs gave them the universe, life.”

Original Text

“La tĂ­a InĂ©s decĂ­a que los hombres eran caprichosos e impenetrables. Noches cerradas con estrellas. Las estrellas eran los resquicios por donde la mujer se asomaba. Los hombres eran la cueva, el fuego en medio de los mastodontes, la seguridad de los pechos anchos, las manos grandes sosteniendo a la mujer en el acto del amor; seres que disfrutaban de la ventaja de no tener horizontes fijos, o los lĂ­mites de espacios confinados. Los eternos privilegiados. A pesar de que todos salĂ­an del vientre de una mujer, que dependĂ­an de ella para crecer y respirar, para alimentarse, tener los primeros contactos con el mundo, aprender a conocer las palabras; luego parecĂ­an rebelarse con inusitada fiereza contra esta dependencia, sometiendo al signo femenino, dominĂ¡ndolo, negando el poder de quienes a travĂ©s del dolor de piernas abiertas les entregaban el universo, la vida.”

— from Belli, G. (1988). La mujer habitada / The inhabited woman. Editorial Txalaparta s.l.

Kathryn Bond Stockton on gender and masculinity

“There are so many different things interacting with that thing we falsely isolate as ‘gender.’ What is the interaction of those elements that produces either a sense of ease, or a sense of concern and anxiety?

“Part of what we’re seeing in our culture is tremendous anxiety surrounding boys, young men, and I have to imagine that that doesn’t really end later in life. Sometimes later in life we all kind of get used to things and we chill. But I have a feeling that these things do remain of concern because they are so extremely bounded. And that’s where, if you watch something like Fight Club, or watch other cultural products, they get at the strange way that white men in particular sort of painted themselves into a corner. Masculinity becomes a whole series of things you can’t do.”

— from The Ezra Klein Show – Gender is complicated for all of us. Let’s talk about it. (2022, August 5). The New York Times.